For parents and caregivers
Mental health
When your child is sad or low.
Sadness is part of life. Persistent changes in mood, energy and interest may mean your child needs more support.
Understanding the situation
Depression in children and teenagers can appear as irritability, withdrawal or loss of enjoyment. Sleep, appetite, concentration and school performance may also change.
Ask directly about self-harm and thoughts of dying if you are concerned. Asking about suicidal thoughts does not increase suicide risk. It can open the way to getting necessary help.
Turning knowledge into action
What you can do
- Calmly describe what you have noticed and ask your child how they are feeling.
- Stay connected through small, predictable conversations and activities.
- Seek help for persistent symptoms or a clear decline in everyday functioning.
Find a way to start
One way to begin
“I've noticed that you have less energy and are withdrawing more. Have you also had thoughts about hurting yourself or not wanting to live?”
Use your own words and give your child time to respond. A short conversation can be a good beginning.
More help with the conversationFurther support
When should you seek help?
Call 113 if there is an immediate risk of suicide and stay with your child until help arrives. Call 116 117 for urgent help that cannot wait. Your GP can follow up other concerns.
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Sources and further reading
Sources were checked on 1 October 2026. The conversation examples are suggestions from Tidlignok.
This content provides general information. Healthcare professionals can assess your child's symptoms, circumstances and treatment needs.