Boundaries and relationships
I'm unsure how to respond.
You have seen or heard something that worries you. Begin with a specific observation and an open conversation.
01 · Understand
What is your concern based on?
Changes in wellbeing or behaviour may have several explanations. Consider what you have observed alongside your child's account and how they function in daily life.
What you have seen
Describe specific situations, such as your child withdrawing from an activity or becoming anxious after contact with someone.
What your child has said
Keep the words your child has used. They may be a starting point for another conversation.
How everyday life is going
Ask how your child feels at home, at school and with other people.
What support your child would like
Ask what might help: a conversation, practical assistance or contact with another adult.
02 · Talk
How can you begin the conversation?
Explain why you are asking and give your child time to respond. You can show care through several short conversations.
For example, you could say
“I've noticed you often go quiet after these messages. How are you feeling?”
“Is there something on your mind that you would like help with?”
“If you'd rather talk with another adult, I can help you do that.”
03 · Take action
What can you do now?
Make the concern concrete and find a next step suitable for the situation.
Write down your observations
Note what you have seen, when it happened and what your child has told you. Keep observations separate from assumptions.
Arrange follow-up
Suggest another time if your child needs space. Continue being available.
Ask for professional advice
Contact a school nurse or GP about concerns relating to health and wellbeing. Explain what you have noticed.
Follow up concerns about safety
If you suspect violence or abuse, you can contact the child helpline or police for guidance.
Follow up after the conversation
Keep an eye on how your child is doing and whether your concern continues. Contact support services again if the situation changes.
04 · Find help
Who can help you next?
Ask for advice if concerns persist, affect your child's daily life or relate to safety. You can seek guidance even while you remain uncertain about what happened.
Norwegian child helpline
Call 116 111 if you are worried about violence, abuse or neglect. Adults can also get free anonymous guidance. The helpline is available around the clock.
Call 116 111Norwegian Police
Call the police on 02800 for advice about threats, violence or abuse. Call 112 if there is immediate danger.
Call 02800When it is urgent
If there is immediate danger from violence or threats, call the police on 112. For urgent medical care, call the out-of-hours service on 116 117.
Sources and further reading
The explanations and advice are written for parents and caregivers using the sources below. Conversation examples are suggestions from Tidlignok.