At home · Ages 8–12
When things are difficult at home
Perhaps adults argue so much that you become frightened, someone at home is having a difficult time, or you spend a lot of time trying to make sure nobody gets angry. What happens at home can affect your feelings, your sleep and how things are for you at school. You can love your family and still need help. Adults are responsible for keeping you safe. A teacher, school nurse or another adult outside your home can listen and help you find the next step.
Perhaps adults argue so much that you become frightened, someone at home is having a difficult time, or you spend a lot of time trying to make sure nobody gets angry. What happens at home can affect your feelings, your sleep and how things are for you at school. You can love your family and still need help. Adults are responsible for keeping you safe. A teacher, school nurse or another adult outside your home can listen and help you find the next step.
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When adults argue
Adults may disagree, but children should not have to feel afraid of what happens. If you hear threats, see violence or spend time waiting for the next angry outburst, it is important that someone knows how you are feeling. It is not your job to stop the argument, take sides or make everyone friends again. Tell a trusted adult somewhere else if talking at home is difficult. You do not need to know the correct explanation for what is happening.
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When you spend time worrying
If you spend a lot of time trying to keep the peace at home or worrying about someone, talking to an adult outside your home may help.
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You can love someone and still find something difficult
You can miss a parent or want to be with someone who also frightens you or makes you sad. Several feelings can be true at the same time. That does not mean you have to hide difficult things. Telling someone is about getting help, not choosing whom you love. You could say, 'I love them, but I need something to change.' The adult you tell should help you understand what may happen next and what could make you safer.
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Who can you talk to?
For example, you could talk to a teacher, school nurse, someone in your family or another adult you trust.
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If you need someone to talk to
If you are frightened at home or need help and cannot find an adult to talk to, you can call the Norwegian child helpline on 116 111. It is free. The people who answer can listen and help you work out what to do.
Want to talk about it?
You can ask someone you trust about anything you have noticed or are worried about. A school nurse or doctor can also help if symptoms affect everyday life.
Help me explainSources and further information
Personal health concerns require assessment by a healthcare professional. Some source documents are in Norwegian.